• Ash Syms

Just because you can doesn't mean you should


The New Year is often a struggle for many women, including myself. I feel like we all try and do ALL THE THINGS. We try and turn ourselves into superwomen!


"I'm going to go to the gym everyday"


"I'm going to declutter my entire house before the end of January"


"I am going to eat totally healthy and cook everything from scratch for my family"


"My house will be clean at all times"


"I will write a 500 page novel and be published before Christmas"


....on top of raising a family, doing copious amounts of laundry, ferrying the kids here, there and everywhere, grocery shopping, working.....


These are all fine goals.


But if I aim to do these all 100% perfectly, I will probably accomplish none of them.

I find one thing that is very helpful is asking myself, do I need to be doing this right now?

Is there a simpler, smarter and easier way to achieve this?


Just because you can do it all, doesn't mean you should.


High stress and schedules packed full are not going to bring order and peace to your life. For both adults and children alike.


I think us Mums are definitely guilty of trying to be in control and in charge of all the details. Just because we have the ability for the tasks doesn't mean that we can't delegate these tasks out and spend our time and energy on something we define as more worthwhile.


This year maybe instead of adding more to your plate, take time to evaluate what is actually important to you and figure out a better way to do it?


For example, grocery shopping. I waste so much time at the dang supermarket. Standing in line, steering the kids away from the chocolate and chip aisle, spending too much money (!) and just in general having a pretty ordinary time. I might be a little late to the party but I am going to start doing my groceries online from now on. That way I can use that time to do something I actually enjoy and the kids won't be asking for a lollipop every 5 seconds.


Another example are chores. I bust my hump everyday doing everything us Mothers "need" to do. Dishwashers need to be emptied, washing hung out, folded and ironed (who I am kidding - the last time I ironed anything I went into labour with Luca - true story! Josh thinks I did it on purpose to get out of it, he might be right) cat fed, beds made, I could literally go on FOREVER. But instead of having a pity party, this year I have delegated! My girls are old enough to make their beds, they have been hanging washing out for me all holidays and they even helped to toilet train their little brother. They are clearly capable of much more than I give them credit for and all it took was for me to step back and let them do it - maybe not perfectly - but good enough for me.


Even if this delegating and not doing things I think I "should" be doing gives me half and hour more at the end of each day, that's half and hour more I can do something I love. Being creative, going for a run, even just lingering a little longer at the dinner table talking about our days.


That's got to be worth it, right?


So tell me, what is one thing that you are trying to streamline this year to make your life a little less hectic and free up some time for yourself?


I'd love to hear.



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Ash Syms is a photographic artist. Her style is emotive, raw and inspired by the beauty of life and documenting the ordinary everyday. She specialises in families and newborns.

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